I have missed several of your last postings, but I want to comment on a couple of them, and since I firmly believe that everyone has a right to MY opinion, I'll do it here on my blog, instead of on yours.
First, I just want to tell you, again, what an amazing and beautiful human being you are. Damn, we're lucky to have you. I love you to pieces.
Second, I'm really glad that you and Jake are trying to have a baby. We need a little 'Heather' in the family. Trying to get pregnant is not always easy, that's for sure. I tried for a two years to get Lisa, and 3 years, (with a miscarriage in there), to get Andrea. Like Kate, I'd only have a period, (and therefore ovulate), about every 3 or 4 months. We KNOW the pain and frustration of 'trying'. I used clomed both times, but it was after I'd given up on that, that I got pregnant both times.
As for Pam, you are taking NOTHING from her that she has not given willingly. You are actually doing a huge service, for one who does not deserve it, by giving her child a wonderful Mother.
Now, that having been said, please, and this is a plea to the entire family, please don't ever tell Grace how her biological mother simply abandoned her. PLEASE just tell her that Pam simply couldn't care for her properly, and so she did what was right for Grace. There is no need for that kind of detail, and such info could seriously screw up a beautiful happy little girl, or young woman, depending on her age. It's just not necessary. You must, no,... WE must all form a new view of how Grace was lucky enough to end up with you as a Mother, and we need to play down the "why" of it - for her sake.
Right, wrong or otherwise, Pam was unable to give Grace the care she needed. That's all Grace should ever need to know. Anything beyond that is personal opinion.
Well, that's MY opinion anyway... any others?
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